In a mediation, the parties are in control of their own destiny. A good mediator can, without doubt, make a huge difference, but more so when the adversarial hats stay firmly in place, when emotions still run high and when hardball tactics are the order of the day. How much better would the process be if the litigants truly appreciated that they need something from the other side; that they need to cooperate with the other side, that they need to facilitate the other side's epiphany; and that a certain common position is best for this case on this day? (That’s the mediator’s job: to drag me kicking and screaming into a resolution. Looks better for my ego that way!)
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“Pay no attention to the little man behind the curtain.” I was a trial judge for 20 years, the little man behind the curtain able to evoke great images of power through my (literally) elevated status and magnified voice. Not to mention the Darth Vader black robes. Oh ya, baby. I was it. Having spent the last seven years of my judicial career in a superior court civil independent calendar department, I had a front row seat to the human condition, and a good deal of authority to go with it. So, as I transitioned out of that role and into the ADR world of mediation, I made some interesting discoveries and some stark realizations. I wasn’t doing settlement conferences anymore. (Wow, Judge, you are perceptive). Hey, I heard that. Looking back on the world of settlement conferences and judicial hearings and forward on the world of mediation has convinced me that the house has truly dropped on my judicial career.
Read more »Come on, we love the ‘hardballer’…“I made him an offer he couldn’t refuse”…”I’ll be back”…and my personal favorite, “A census taker once tried to test me. I ate his liver with some fava beans and a nice Chianti." Perhaps Clint was the best hardballer of them all… “You’ve got to ask yourself one question. ‘Do I feel lucky’ Well, do you, punk?” and of course, ”Go ahead, make my day.” Ya, baby! Nothing like an ‘in your face’ hardball moment on the big screen!
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